My 9-year-old daughter interviewing me about having a dyslexic daughter
“I am interviewing my mum to see what it is like having a dyslexic daughter.”
Question 1/ Did you always think I was dyslexic?
Mum Answer : “I had a feeling you were dyslexic at about 5, when you started writing backwards rather than forwards.”
Question 2: Did you feel you were the only parent at the time and did you think why is it my daughter?
Mum Answer: “I remember feeling quite lonely because I didn’t know any other people with dyslexic children and I thought if it is 1 in 10 children, there must be other parents out there, but I didn’t know anyone.”
Question 3:What was your first emotion when you found out I was dyslexic?
Mum Answer: “Sad, because you were so articulate verbally, but you were unable to get your thoughts and amazing ideas down on paper and I didn’t know how to help you.
Question 4: What did you want to do to help me when you found out I was dyslexic?
Mum answer: “I tried speaking to your teacher at the time, but she said in Year 1 it was too early to diagnose dyslexia and there would be no benefit labelling you. I found this frustrating. One teacher at parent’s evening told me she had tried everything she could for you and she could do no more and I remember just crying infront of her and said you can’t right off a six-year-old.”
Question 5: Did you have any worries for my future?
Mum answer:”Yes, because in this world, we are often judged by our academic achievements and if you find reading and writing hard I worried about you falling behind at school.
Question 6: When you heard about famous and successful dyslexic role models how did you feel?
Mum answer: “ I was excited and pleased because people had succeeded despite being dyslexic. I read a lot about the subject including a book called:“ The Gift of Dyslexia.” I learnt that dyslexia can be a gift and not a disability, it can be a blessing in disguise. I wanted you to meet successful role models and I wrote to Jo Malone, a famous dyslexic business woman and Helen Arkell, a wonderful dyslexic pioneer, now in her 90s. I said if they can achieve great things, so can you.”
Question 7: Do you think my earliest days at school I made much progress?
Mum answer: “No, but, one thing I do know is that you had to work doubly hard and you always tried your very best even though you found reading, writing, spellings and phonics very difficult. You even found it hard to write your name. You were also the youngest in your year group and left-handed, so school was challenging.”
What do you think of my academic leaning now?
I think you are making steady progress as there is no quick fix solution. I know we both get frustrated at times, but we need to be patient. I have to appreciate that you find writing and spelling hard and we need to build your confidence.
I am now hoping to teach you touch typing so you can get your ideas down on paper. I am very proud of you.”